At some point, we'll know everything we need to, right?
I felt "stupid" at every turn in my academic journey. Despite passing exams and achieving milestones, I unconsciously attributed my successes to luck or external factors, never truly internalizing my achievements. Every new level brought fresh challenges, overshadowing past accomplishments and reigniting feelings of inadequacy.
Without realising it, I was waiting for the one day when I would know everything. I didn't consciously realise that, but I thought that once I'd finished my studies, then I'd have all the knowledge that I needed, and I could finally get rid of the horrible feeling of incompetence and 'not knowing'. I wouldn't feel stupid anymore. (Spoiler alert: never happened!)
Throughout our studying, most of us are haunted by a nagging feeling of inadequacy and incompetence. We often question our capabilities, wonder if we're cut out for the challenges ahead, and sometimes, feel downright "stupid."
But here's the thing: feeling this way is not only normal but also an integral part of our growth. Let's explore this sentiment and understand when, if ever, we stop feeling "stupid."
The Ever-Present Feeling of "Stupidity"
Any new environment, as exciting as it may be, comes with an element of stuff we just don't know. We want to perform well, we want to achieve, we want to do our best, and this constant feeling of 'not knowing' can be exhausting.
At every new level of our studies and careers, it's natural to feel overwhelmed. New concepts, challenging assignments, and the pressure to excel can make even the brightest minds doubt themselves. The world often tells us to "Be positive!" But how can we be positive about something that genuinely scares us, and when we've been feeling incompetent for so long?
The Reality of Professional Life
As we transition from academic life to the professional world, we might expect these feelings to dissipate. After all, we're now equipped with knowledge and credentials.
But here's the twist: the professional realm constantly pushes us to stretch our boundaries. We're often faced with novel challenges, devoid of textbooks or clear solutions. This can reignite those familiar feelings of "stupidity." Changes in the world, technology and society means that even if we do stay in the same field, we will still constantly be exposed to new situations, projects, roles and requirements. There's no way that our textbook learning will have prepared us for everything we'll ever face. We are going to feel stupid, a lot.
So, when DO we stop feeling stupid?
Short answer? Never. (Sorry to burst your bubble!)
It's not about reaching a point where we know everything. Instead, it's about evolving our perspective from "I must be stupid because I don't know this" to "Here's something new I need to take a look at and work with"
Acceptance Over Fear: Recognize that feeling "stupid" or challenged is a sign of growth. It means you're venturing into uncharted territories, pushing your boundaries, and learning.
Value the Journey: Every challenge, every moment of doubt, contributes to your personal and professional growth. It's these experiences that shape you, hone your skills, and prepare you for future endeavors.
Seek Support: Talk to peers, mentors, and educators. You'll often find that many have felt the same way. Their insights, experiences, and encouragement can be invaluable.
Celebrate Small Wins: Instead of waiting for monumental achievements, celebrate the small victories along the way. Every challenge overcome, every concept grasped, is a step forward.
Reframe "Stupidity": Instead of viewing it as a negative emotion, see it as a sign of humility. It's an acknowledgment that there's always more to learn, more to explore.
The Silver Lining
While the feeling of "stupidity" might never entirely go away, it evolves into an acceptance of challenges. It transforms from a paralyzing fear into a motivating force. As you face new challenges, you'll approach them not with trepidation but with a thirst for knowledge and growth.
In Conclusion
Feeling "stupid" is a natural part of our academic and professional journey. It's a testament to our commitment to growth, our willingness to venture beyond our comfort zones, and our humility in the face of vast knowledge. So, the next time you feel "stupid," take a moment to acknowledge how far you've come and how much further you're willing to go. Because in this vast journey of learning and growth, it's not about having all the answers but about the relentless pursuit of knowledge.
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